Animal shelters, rescues and fosters are overflowing with dogs that need a home. Many of them have come from families who neglected to spend time with them, or to get them appropriate veterinary care. Other dogs may have come from an abusive situation—whether physical, verbal, or both.
You may have recently taken on the task of either fostering or adopting a dog that was previously in an abusive home. Gaining trust with the new dog is imperative for its physical, mental, and emotional health. Keep reading for tips on how to get an abused dog to trust you.
10 Tips and Tricks
1. Be Calm and Use a Quiet Voice
Without knowing exactly what your dog went through, one can assume that an abused dog was likely yelled at, and potentially physically abused as well. When trying to gain the trust of your new dog, raising your voice, either to them or in their presence, may cause them great stress.
When you are trying to gain trust with your new dog, always be mindful of the tone and volume of your voice. Try to stay calm in both your demeanor and your voice as you speak to your new dog. Also be mindful of how you speak with others in the house around your new dog. Even if you aren’t yelling directly at them, any loud or distressed voices in the house may cause further trauma to your new dog.
Training may take more time with an abused dog, so practicing patience, and remaining quiet and calm is beneficial.
2. Move Slowly
Your new dog may easily become startled by loud noises, fast movements, and unpredictable behavior. Moving quickly in the presence of your new dog may make them on edge. They won’t know what you are doing, and they might be reactive.
When any dog reacts, they may show fear by urinating, retreating, or biting. Although the bite may not be meant to attack you, a fear bite is a bite nonetheless. Move slowly, and remember to use a quiet voice until your new pup trusts you.
3. Give Your Dog a Safe Space
An abused dog needs somewhere they can sleep, hide, calm down, and feel safe. This may be a kennel in a quiet space or a room of their own. It is extremely important that once your new dog’s safe space is set up, everyone in the house respects it. That means if there are new family members, friends, or kids over who don’t live with your dog, they should respect the safe space as well.
If your dog puts themself in their safe space, or if you put them there to keep them calm, no one is allowed to bother them. Period. No matter how much the kids want to “play with the new dog”, they need to respect your dog’s space. Remember, this is their safe space, and invading that area will break trust.
4. Allow Your Dog Time to Heal and Trust
Trauma is, well, traumatizing. Whether your dog suffered from physical abuse, verbal abuse, neglect, or all of the above, they will need time to trust again. Some dogs will immediately trust their new owner, but may be nervous of new surroundings. Other times, abused dogs will not trust people, and will only trust their safe space.
Whatever the case, be patient! People don’t heal immediately from abuse and traumatic events, and you shouldn’t expect your dog to either.
5. Don’t Make Direct Eye Contact
Some nervous and abused dogs will take direct eye contact as a challenge. As people, we are taught to make eye contact when speaking to people to gain trust and show confidence. However with animals, direct eye contact may be taken as a challenge. Don’t make direct eye contact, especially in moments when you may be frustrated with your dog.
6. Offer Your Side
Approaching your dog straight on, as with direct eye contact, may be seen as a challenge. Your new dog may think they are in danger and may immediately be put on guard. As previously stated, reactivity may take many forms including submissive urinations, hiding, running away, or attacking.
While you may not have meant anything harmful by approaching your dog this way, previous experience with an abusive person may have taught your dog not to trust this action. Go slow and try to approach your dog from the side and offer your side for them to approach.
7. Don’t Reach Out to the Head and Face Right Away
This goes hand in hand with number six. Approaching your dog straight on, either walking towards them or reaching towards them, may trigger protective and reactive behavior. Unless your dog is in immediate danger and you need to act quickly, do not reach straight out for their head, ears or neck. These are often areas of the body that are struck, pulled, twisted and manipulated to cause pain in cases of abuse. Your dog may be very protective of their face and head.
Go slowly and try to start by scratching the side of the face, neck, and ears when offering your dog your side. If they lean back into you and seem to like the action, slowly work around to the front of the face over time.
8. Positive Reinforcement
Reward and encourage your new dog with positive reinforcement! This may take the form of tasty treats, toys, or attention. Each dog will gravitate towards what they like best.
Some dogs may not want any of it at first, being completely shut down and nervous about everything. Once you give them time, likely they will respond positively to either one or multiple forms of positive reinforcement. When offering treats or a toy, always put it on the ground or offer it with an open palm. Some abused dogs may be very food or possession-aggressive, so always go slow and use caution.
Remember to reward not only the behavior you are training (sit, stay, come, etc.), but also behaviors like going into their safe space, resting quietly, or even approaching you on their own. Every little step out of their abused shell towards a more social and confident attitude should be rewarded.
9. Let Them Approach You
This goes hand in hand with everything we have discussed so far. As previously discussed, being loud, moving quickly or aggressively, losing patience, not respecting a safe space, and offering negative reinforcement will not help you gain trust with your abused pup. Allowing your dog time, space, and a quiet positive environment to come to you will help you both build trust that much quicker.
10. Seek Professional Help
Some abuse cases are severe. Your new dog may have previous physical, emotional, or mental wounds so severe that professional help is needed. Please contact your veterinarian to make sure that your new dog is physically healthy and comfortable. Pain may add to their already stressed and nervous demeanor, so always make sure your dog is physically healthy.
Veterinary behaviorists¹ should also be considered in cases of severe abuse, anxiety, destruction, and/or violence. Veterinary behaviorists specialize in these cases and have gone through rigorous training and education to help. Please be aware of trainers, breeders, or others who claim to be experts in behavior. Often these people have no medical background and may cause more harm than good.
In conclusion, earning an abused dog’s trust takes time. Remember that any type of trauma is traumatic, and healing takes time and space. Using a quiet voice, moving slow, not rushing at your dog, offering them positive reinforcement, and giving them a safe space will all help them to trust you as their new owner.
Consider getting professional help from a board-certified veterinary behaviorist¹ if your pet is a severe case, or if none of these tips seem to help. Use caution when using trainers, breeders, or other individuals who claim to be experts in behavior, but have no formal training in such.
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